Sometimes it doesn’t feel safe to feel pleasure.
My nervous system goes into threat response when I go past my point of tolerance for joy, celebration, love or sensuality. Those things can quickly feel dangerous if I let past triggers take the wheel. When I feel disconnected from my sense of safety, I’ll see others sensual photos and project “that’s not safe”. When really they are triggering my edge that day. Edges shift day to day depending on how safe we feel moment to moment in a physical sense, our emotional bodies, our environment and in our relationships. Context is everything. Our nervous systems can flip on a dime.
We live in a sexually traumatized society. The system teaches us at a young age to be afraid of being sensual or something bad will happen to us. Look at the backlash Jlo and Shakira received for their epically sexy half time show. Our nervous systems are holding weights that never belonged to us to begin with. When we can welcome and allow our fears and discomforts to run through the body it transmutes from fossil fuels into renewable energy.
Allow the fear in, breathe it in, hold it, shout it out, move it. Take 2 minutes and let your body fully go there, I bet you’ll return more “you” and centered than before.