My Magical Toolkit

✨I’ve spent the last few months deep diving with my clients into inner child needs. As humans we all grew up with unmet needs to varying degrees - even if we had superstar parents there were moments where we were left crying and our parents didn't get to us fast enough. As an adult when our needs aren't met, we can often source them from somewhere else but as a child there's typically nowhere else to go and it's often we feel we'd die if we don't get our needs met, it can feel insatiable and really intense. As we grow into adulthood, it's common for us to go around looking for someone to fulfill our unmet needs and it's this cosmic joke because no adult can give us true unconditional love, they can come close, but they can't meet the needs our parents were meant to. It's also common to get fixated on wanting our needs to be met by people we're attracted to. The way out of this cycle is to recognize that non one on the outside can meet our needs unconditionally. There are two sources of unconditional love:

1) Ourselves. We ourselves can decide that if we need love, safety, etc. that you're going to source it from within. You can create incredible compassion for yourself by repeating to yourself "I will hold you. I will listen to you. I will keep you safe.” And working with a support system to help cultivate this.

2) Universal or spiritual connection to the divine. By cultivating recognition that you've always been loved by the universe because you are here.

Usually there is TON of inner child resistance to both of these things because we REALLY want the love to come from our caretaker or the creator of our wounds, our partner, etc. We tend to want to heal thru these people but they’re the same people that caused the pain.

One of the greatest gifts my teacher has shown me is how to mother myself and father myself. One of the common misconceptions is that we need someone else to heal the unmet needs we never had met by our parents and this tool debunks that misconception and creates a thriving inner ecology for my clients.

In my magical toolkit for dealing with unattended needs, I'll show you how you can cultivate your own inner mother and inner father to parent you and tend to your unmet needs. Because we are the only ones that can actually tend to ourselves with this unconditional love. In this tool, we channel the empowered identities of your own inner feminine and masculine. It's a mix of reparenting, inner child and empowerment tools. And if you're feeling a "yes" to this work, send me a DM. I have a fun new offer brewing for you.❤️