Slowing down improves sex life

Hi loves! 🥰 You might know me as a grief coach but did you know I’m certified in sex, love and relationships by Layla Martin? In honoring the seasons of life, as we move into Spring, the season of rebirth, I’m going to start talking more about pleasure and celebrating sexuality.

❄️ This winter I’ve been focusing on grief with my clients, because winter is the season to make peace with what needs to die off. To sit in stillness. To listen to the whispers of deep inner wisdom. When you fully embrace winter, you make space for the brightest spring.

🌼 Springtime is all about expansion. We move from yin energy to yang energy. There’s growth, blossoming, and the potential for pleasure in the air.

Pleasure can be a portal for liberation, ecstasy and bliss. When you anchor into pleasure as the primary touchstone for how you relate to life, you create a deep connection to yourself.

And the beauty is, it starts with no one else but you, my love. 👑

In fact, when you place ownership of pleasure on someone else, it’s actually disempowering.

If you’re dating, don’t wait for someone to fulfill your desires for pleasure. When you claim pleasure as a source of your own empowerment, you’ll date differently. You’ll have more shine, more magnetism, and radiance. In fact, the way you self pleasure is crucial for the quality of partner you attract.

If you’re in a relationship, the more you are dependent on someone for your turn on, the more the relationship can lean toward neediness. If you’re waiting your partner to turn yourself on because you can't fully turn yourself on, it doesn't allow you to truly co create in your relationship.

I’m going to share with you my first tip for harnessing your pleasure potential.

🍃SLOW DOWN AND BREATHE🍃

🔥My teacher once said “50% of sexual issues can be counteracted by slowing down.” Slowing down and increasing the depth and quality of your breath can help you feel more sensitized, integrated, and connected to yourself or to your partner. Slowing down can create a deeper processing of the experience in your body, rather than your mind, by bringing more parts of your body online.